It’s difficult to have a crush on a coworker. You see them all the time! If you want to move things along, learn how to flirt with a coworker subtly.
Having a crush on someone you work with is an awkward but common situation. We’ve all been there, but have you ever tried to move things along and see if they felt the same way? If so, how well did it work? If it didn’t, learn how to flirt subtly with a coworker.
The main issue with this situation is that if you flirt a lot and it doesn’t work out, you’ll continue to see them on a daily basis. It may make life difficult and humiliating, and as a result, your work may suffer as a result.
That is, of course, the disadvantage. The good news? They might feel the same way, and you could be the newest hot couple on the block!
Understand your company’s human resources policies.
It’s all about subtlety when it comes to learning how to flirt with a coworker. In many ways, it’s a difficult line to walk, but with a little practice and dedication, you’ll get there. But, first and foremost, are you permitted to have relationships with coworkers?
Relationships between coworkers are not permitted in every workplace, and whether they are prohibited or permitted varies by location. While most workplaces are a little more lenient than they used to be, it is still an unspoken rule in many cases.
Relationships or unions between different staff grades may also be frowned upon. You can argue whether something is right or wrong until you’re blue in the face, but rules are rules.
If your job is important to you (and hopefully it is), you need to know where you stand before you try to flirt with the apple of your eye.
Most workplaces have a code of conduct manual or document, so simply double-check things ahead of time, but in the most subtle of ways!
What else do you need to know if you’ve done that and know that coworker flings aren’t frowned upon? Oh, the fact that you could be playing with fire.
Yes, there are more negatives, but I want you to be well-armed and prepared before you engage in flirting combat.
What if something goes wrong?
I hate to be negative, but consider the possibility that either this person does not like you back in the same way, or that things are going well and then suddenly turn sour.
Remember, whether you’re in a relationship or not, whether you’re hooking up or not, you see this person every day at work, which can be agonizing in some situations.
Your job is important, and whether or not you intend to stay with that company for the rest of your working days, it is critical that you remain professional and do your best while there.
You won’t be able to do that if you cringe every time they enter the office. This could be made worse if you have to work closely with this individual.
Of course, it could be just as painful if your crush develops into a full-fledged love that you have to keep quiet because you work with this person and are afraid to make a move.
The only thing you can do is follow your instincts and do what you know you can live with. I had a crush on one of my coworkers. I told him after we ran into each other in a bar and exchanged a drunken kiss that had literally changed my life up until that point.
It didn’t work out for me, and it was humiliating for a long time, but thankfully I didn’t have to work closely with him. I overcame it, and while I no longer work there, it was not the reason I left.
So, make your decision and proceed with the successful, but subtle, flirting strategy.
How to Flirt with a Coworker Subtly and Successfully
This strategy is divided into four major components:
#1 Body language
#2 Selective verbal cues
#3 Adding a sense of mystery and sexual tension.
#4 Remove the flirting from the workplace.
You can use body language and selective verbal cues on a daily basis. It creates a sense of mystery and sexual tension that can be taken outside of the workplace.
For example, you could suggest meeting for a drink after work to discuss a project. Of course, you’re not going to talk about a project; instead, you’re going to flirt a little more!
Remember that the key to learning how to flirt with a coworker is to be subtle. Whether or not relationships and unions are permitted in your workplace, don’t go around blatantly stating what you want. You are being compensated for your professionalism at work!
Here are a few examples of how to use body language and selective verbal cues:
– When you speak, make eye contact.
– When speaking, gently touch them on the arm.
– Bite your lower lip while listening to them speak.
– Demonstrate an interest in what they have to say.
– Buy them a cup of coffee or a drink whenever you buy one for yourself.
– On a regular basis, inquire about their evening, i.e. show interest.
– Gently nudge them in a playful manner.
– Identify mutual hobbies or interests and focus on discussing them.
As you can see, these aren’t overt flirting techniques. They do bring you closer to your crush and demonstrate a bond you don’t have with anyone else.
You create a little tension by doing so. Increase the level of flirtation with eye contact, gentle touching, and lip biting.
Obviously, I don’t have to tell you that you shouldn’t go around touching people if they don’t appear to be comfortable with it, or in an inappropriate manner.
Keep in mind that you are at work! When making a point, a gentle but fleeting hand on the arm should suffice.
It’s time to take the plunge.
Once you’re certain that your coworker understands that you’re flirting and not just being friendly, and you see signs of flirting coming back to you, suggest an out-of-work meeting. Continue the theme when you ask them out, as subtle as the rest of your flirting has been.
If possible, keep work ingrained in it. If they refuse, you have the option to withdraw. This will save your face enormously!
For example, suggest that you meet for a coffee or a drink after work in the bar across the street to continue brainstorming ideas for the project you’re both working on.
Alternatively, mention that you’re going to a new bar and that they should come in and check it out if they’re in the neighborhood. Maintain a relaxed tone. Don’t let on that it’s a date you’re proposing.
It can be difficult to learn how to flirt with a coworker. You may not believe you are demonstrating your interest to your crush. The subtle route allows you to conceal your efforts, giving you an embarrassment safety net.